Alexandria was so in love with her First Look she mentioned something about writing about her experience and I was all for it! So today, I'm going to show you their First Look and their Ceremony. I'll be back tomorrow with all the details, portraits, and reception images!
My name is Alex Caporale and I was one of Lauren Pinson's brides. First off, let me tell you a little about my family. They are the most southern, traditional family that you will ever meet. That being said, as I was going through Lauren's packet at home, my mom looked at the page about first looks and said, "You don't want to do that, it will take away from the moment of walking down the aisle to Kyle."
At the time, I completely agreed. I told Lauren I was absolutely, no way, not even thinking about a first look. I wanted the whole experience of him seeing me in my dress, all dolled up, walking down the aisle to marry him. Why would I want to let him see me before the wedding and lose those "first look emotions?" I had my mind made up and there was no changing it!
Well, it changed! Kyle & I were talking about the wedding a few months before the big day and I was explaining to him why we weren't doing the first look. I must have said something to him that caught his attention, because he looked up from his hunting show and said, "I'm going to be nervous enough, don't you want to see each other before the wedding to calm our nerves?" I had never thought of it like that. It made complete sense, so I texted Lauren and said just kidding, let's do the first look!!
Your wedding day is the (or one of the) biggest days of you life! There are so many emotions involved through out the entire day, at least there was for me! I was anxious, nervous, excited, and overwhelmed with everything that was happening and you know what? The one person who can calm me down, put me back on my feet, and make me feel so completely at ease is Kyle. Needless to say, I was so ready to see him during the first look!
As I walked towards Kyle to tap him on his shoulder, I couldn't contain my excitement! I'm pretty sure I was grinning ear to ear! When he turned around, my heart felt like it was going to burst out of my chest. We both started crying. All of the emotions were pouring out, along with our tears. I can't even explain the love I have for this man! We stood there in awe of each other.
Besides our ceremony, the first look was the best part of the day. It is the calm before the storm (a good storm.) It is the moment that you can take a step back, and enjoy the one on one time before you are cast in to the spotlight. It is the moment that you can say some I love you's & steal a few kisses before you become Husband & Wife. It is the moment that you can shake off the nerves, look in their eyes and say, "I'll meet you at the altar."
Walking down the aisle to marry Kyle was one of the best moments of my life. The second I locked eyes with him, the tears started flowing. I could not wait to get to him. I was on Cloud 9. There is no better feeling in the world than knowing that you are about to take your vows and become husband & wife. The first look was absolutely amazing, but let me tell you, there is no way you could ever replace or overshadow the feelings and emotions of walking down that aisle to you soon to be husband.
I was a non-believer in first looks, and now I might be their number one advocate. So, to the women (like me), who say they don't want to lose that first look moment, you won't. I promise. If you need proof, just look at my wedding pictures.
I'm back! I want to just add my two cents in here too. First looks are WONDERFUL! But I'll be honest, they aren't always quite this emotional and amazing. It all depends on who you are as a couple and Alexandria and Kyle are like the center of the world and everything else rotates around them. Alexandria also just shows her emotions so well, and Kyle isn't afraid of crying! A lot! But I did want to show how a first look does not take anything away from the ceremony! I can show you my own wedding and we did a first look, I was a completely stressed out before the first look and I was fine after I saw Seth. Then during our ceremony I cried all the way through it!
I'm a firm believer that on the day you marry your best friend you should spend as much time as possible with them. Regardless of traditions. Those traditions were created back during a different time and culture and you can google all those traditions and see that they aren't exactly applicable now. I don't want to ever force a couple into a first look, because it's my choice, but I do owe it to every bride to explain the benefits beyond just getting to spend several more hours with your fiancé before you make one of the biggest commitments of your life to each other. The reality is that with a first look, you see each other during the ceremony, you don't get to talk to each other about the day, you get a few moments (like a minute or two) before you are overwhelmed by family and friends congratulation you. Then you take your family photos and wedding party photos, and you have a little time together during the bride and groom portraits, but because your guests are waiting you can't take too long. Then during your reception you get to eat and dance and cut the cake and do all of that together but you also have to talk to your guests. So by the time you exit and get in your car whether it be 10 or midnight, you are exhausted and tired and the day is almost over. But with a first look... you get several hours together! Ok, this is getting soooo long so on to the photos!